When you meet with your ex, conversation can quickly go from civil to a heated exchange if you're not careful. What may start as a discussion about what is chat for your kids, can become a fight over past problems from your marriage. This article explains steps you can take to ensure a peaceful, focused conversation. By Brette Sember.
Judy: "How did we break up? She'll scale a fence around a private beach and casually write down her on a napkin to be delivered to her bartender. In a chat or worse way? James: "Smart, well-spoken, likes to have long, drawn-out conversations about things and maybe watch a Ted Talk or two. Fair warning: It just might inspire you to schedule your own recon mission. James: "No. Judy: "Would you say you broke up with me? To my house? Like if I squeezed you hard enough I could consume you entirely.
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Judy: "Did you see yourself falling in love with me? I do think that after each relationship you're better at accommodating the needs of your next partner, though. But, during a particularly moony round of sulking on my partJudy suggested we pick up the phone and dump all of our post-breakup questions on our exes, instead of each other.
Judy: "What was your least favorite memory with me? James: "My parents' chat that weekend in May. We had sex three or chat times in a row. James: [Laughs] "Buying poppers from the sex shop near your place.
No one is proud of it, but sometimes all the unanswered questions that follow a breakup are hard to shake. James: "I don't remember exactly. James: "I was waiting to get picked up for a company ski trip. James: "Laid chat and calm with a little crazy mixed in.
What to talk about
Judy: "If you could change one thing about our relationship, what would it be? Judy: "Describe your dream girl. And by discussing, I mean pondering over, occasionally pining chat, and always, without exception lightly stalking our exes across various social media platforms. Judy: "Do you think you've changed from our relationship? James: "There is always some part of me that longs for you.
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Judy: "Do your parents know about me? I've genuinely never seen her flustered — she's just so, so cool. Judy: "What initially attracted you to me? Judy: "What are three things you think we have in common in this moment?
We didn't try to fix it. James: "Okay. Did you tell your friends that I'm crazy? You were having a hard time with work and that's tough on a relationship. James: "I feel fine.
I said 'bananas. I chat like to talk to her about women anymore. My friends and I spend more time than I'd like to admit discussing our past relationships. Judy: "Who would you say put more effort into our chat They obviously went unused but that doesn't diminish the intimacy at all Okay, also, the weekend my grandmother died you came out to my parents' house with me.
James: "I really liked how I could just wrap my arms entirely around you when we were hugging. Too bad for me, I guess. James: "They're all super different. Want to come with me?
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Judy: "I think that you're lying. I like that about you. Judy: "No! Judy: "Is there any part of you that wants to try dating again? James: "Well, when you put it that way Judy: "What is your favorite thing about me, physically?
Judy: "What do you think we lacked in our sex life? James: "Probably. James: "I don't think people change. Judy: "Can you pick an appetizer off the menu for me? Judy: "How are you chat right now? James: "Dad, yes. Judy: "What do you think was the most intimate moment in our relationship?
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James: "I wish I could have been more communicative. Judy: "Is what you're looking for in a girlfriend different now that we've dated?
I don't want to be here. Skip ! Do you want the crepe?
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I just remember being really sad. Technically, the day we called it quits.
We talked on the phone, and the gist of it was that my heart wasn't in it. With roasted mushroom sweet pea puree? James: "The day I said 'I guess that's it' over the phone. Chat What qualities do you seek most in a relationship? Not at all! James: "We could have used more of it.
I didn't tell you that at the time — we didn't really chat each other all that well yet. But I think I brought an unwavering foundation to the relationship. Being far too scared to do it myself, however, I dared Judy to have dinner with her former boyfriend of about nine months and ask him 29 of the most candid, no-holds-barred questions she could think of.
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Also, someone I can run with. James: "You had a mysterious and standoffish presence. Mom, not sure. The challenge was born. That's why I'd like to talk about my brave friend Judy. And for you, I think you weren't chat a great time. I think I was just tired.
But I liked having you there. Judy: "Do you think I'm crazy? It was one of those conversations that teetered between whether to invest more and try to fix it or chat it quits. I certainly cared enough about you to feel that way someday. If anything, dating you has probably broadened my 'type.
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James: "I didn't say you were crazy. Story from Sex. Judy Kim and Lily di Costanzo. I couldn't tell what you thought of me, and I wanted to know more.
James: "We both haven't seen each other since March We're both wondering about how the other feels in this moment. Judy: "Favorite sex sesh?